I used to answer freelance messages until midnight and woke up dreading my inbox every single day. Last month I set a hard stop at 5pm, no exceptions, and my anxiety dropped way faster than I expected. Anyone else try setting a hard cutoff, or does it feel impossible with your clients?
...and honestly it makes me wonder if we're all just waiting for permission to set boundaries. Like, we know deep down that answering emails at 10pm is nuts, but we think the client will vanish if we don't. Then you actually stop and the sky doesn't fall. It's the same thing with people who never take lunch breaks or check work stuff on vacation. We've turned being available into some kind of badge of honor when really it's just a habit we never question. Your anxiety drop makes total sense because you finally gave your brain a safe place to land at the end of the day.