Honestly that kind of precision is overkill for a drawer slide... a 1/16 inch shim is basically nothing. Most of the time you can just tweak the drawer box itself a little bit or loosen the mounting screws to get some wiggle room. Spending seven hours on it sounds like a battle of wills with the hardware. Sometimes good enough is actually fine and it will still work perfectly smooth.

Ugh, that's rough but honestly, is it really that bad? Chipping around the handles after eight months sounds pretty normal for cabinets that get used every day. Maybe just touch up those spots instead of redoing everything, that sounds like a crazy amount of work.

That "shared file" idea is the only thing that makes sense. I once had a dream my cat could talk, and he spent the whole time just criticizing my life choices. If that got downloaded to my whole street, I'd have to move.

Remember reading a lease once that said "reasonable wear and tear" but never said what that was. Landlord tried to keep the whole deposit over a scuffed floor and a tiny nail hole. It's exactly what matthew_west is saying, that vagueness lets people rewrite the rules later. Felt like I needed a lawyer just to move out of an apartment. They count on you being too tired to fight it.