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Showerthought: Noticing my reaction to criticism changed how I handle feedback. | Psychology Insights - Freelance Forum - The Community for Independent Professionals

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daniel_coleman91•6mo ago

Showerthought: Noticing my reaction to criticism changed how I handle feedback.

I used to shut down whenever someone gave me advice at my job. It felt like they were criticizing me personally. After a few months, I saw a pattern where I'd repeat the same errors because I wasn't listening. So, I decided to watch my first thoughts when criticized. I noticed that my mind would jump to 'they think I'm bad at this' right away. Once I saw that, I could tell myself it's just about the task, not me. Now, I take a breath and ask for details instead of getting upset. Has anyone else found a way to handle feedback better?

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the_lisa6mo ago

Wait, idk if switching from defensive to eager is annoying though. I mean, it's way better than just shutting down, right? Maybe it's just a step.

drews556mo ago

Ever notice that when you react badly to advice, people just stop giving it to you? That was the real kicker for me, realizing I was training my coworkers to let me fail.